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Victoria Carlton’s EQ4KIDZ
(An Emotional Intelligence workshop for Kids aged 5-12 years old)

This course will help all children reach for the stars and maximise their full potential. Participation in this course will improve their academic results!

Course is designed to help children:

• Reduce stress
• Make a happier child with a more positive attitude
• Increase self-esteem
• Understand and manage their feelings
• Develop strategies to handle frustration and anger
• Develop “I CAN” attitudes
• Establish healthy boundaries and become assertive
• Develop resilience
• Deal with bullies (also available as a single module for schools)
• Improve social skills and form appropriate friendships
• Increase personal motivation
• Form goals and develop the ability to “follow-through”

Course Details
Victoria and her trained facilitators are present to conduct the course, thus establishing a nurturing, warm environment to help foster your child’s EQ.

You will be given suggestions to help you put strategies in place in the home, and at the end of the course you will be given an appraisal of your child with suggestions for further improvement. You can also enrol your child at the Genius Learning Hub to continue to reinforce the nurturing.

Individual EQ follow-up counselling session conducted by Victoria Carton is available at $198.00 /hour.

Parents can also participate under “EQ4Parent” course which is taking place on the second day

Schools should enquire about WHOLE SCHOOL rates for our workshops.
This course is available for licensing & for facilitators attending our teacher certification course. (A module from Victoria Carlton’s Mastery Practitioner Course)

Venue & Schedule (2 days)
Harmony Seminar Room @ September 21’s - No. 13 Toa Payoh Lorong 8, #04-05 Braddell Tech
Saturday & Sunday, 17-18 September 2011 (9.30am - 4.30pm)

Early Bird Course Fee
Early bird Investment for registration & payment by 31 August 2011. Add $50.00 from 1 September 2011.

FOS member $328.00 per child
Non-member $358.00 per child
(Limited vacancies, so please sign up early!)

To register or for more information, visit www.geniuslearninghub.com or call 62557790

Victoria Carlton’s EQ4Parents
(An Emotional Intelligence workshop for Parents)

PROVEN TECHNIQUES FOR IMPROVING FAMILY HARMONY

Created in response to feedback from our popular EQ4KIDZ course, EQ4Parent introduces parents to the same hands-on strategies taught to kids in EQ4KIDZ.

Learning and applying these strategies at home can improve harmony and promote optimistic attitudes in ALL families while raising the self-esteem of family members

Do you ever feel as if your kids come from a different planet?

• Would you like your family to be closer and really understand each other?
• Would you like to create an EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT home that nurtures potential, respect, and love?
• YES, you can, no matter what your current family situation, by applying simple techniques taught at this workshop

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ) is the key to healthy self-esteem, motivation and the ability to set and follow through on goals.

This is an intensive half day course open to families who would like to-

• Improve the general level of family harmony and cooperation.
• Improve self-confidence, resilience and emotional intelligence of all family members.
• Help all family members to understand each other and respect, nurture and deeply love each other.
• Help parents to understand their children and be able to coach them to reach their highest potential.
• Learn practical strategies to defuse “trigger” situations and ensure the safe expression of anger and frustration.

Children will be led through the important components of EQ4KIDZ and parents will be taken through EQ4PARENT so they can ensure a high EQ environment takes place in their homes.

Take advantage of this unique opportunity where Victoria will help your families improve communication, emotional intelligence and general levels of happiness!

Venue & Schedule
Harmony Seminar Room @ September 21’s - No. 13 Toa Payoh Lorong 8, #04-05 Braddell Tech
Sunday, 18 September 2011: (1.30 - 4.30pm)

Early Bird Course Fee

Early bird Investment for registration & payment by 31 August 2011. Add $50.00 from 1 September 2011.

FOS member: $148.00 per couple
Non-member: $178.00 per couple

See the registration form for our special family package prices

For further information and booking, please call Chew Yeh @ 62560226
This course is available for licensing and is a module from Victoria Carlton’s Mastery Practitioner Course

For more information, visit www.geniuslearninghub.com

Enrich your child’s holiday with our Chinese Camp & “Read & Tell” Camp this Sep!

Ignite your child’s interest in the Chinese language yet again! Incorporating decontextualisation techniques to impart the lingusitic skills of the Chinese language, this camp promises lots of fun and engagement whilst learning. Children re-acquaint themeselves with the Chinese language through a host of activities and games to enrich their learning.

“Read & Tell” Camp brings new meaning to reading. It empowers children to understand what they are reading, by getting them to decipher and appreciate the context and language forms, a linguistic virtue important in comprehending different forms of literature and also an important skill for their subsequent endeavors in primary school.

Enjoy a priviledged discount rate of 10% when you register before 31 Aug off each individual camp. Sign up for both and enjoy more than 19% discount!

*Above rates are subject to prevailing GST.

For more information, visit www.littlescholars.com.sg/

Note: Designed to give parents a peace of mind on logistics arrangement, the full-day camps allow our little darlings to spend a fruitful day picking up lifelong skills whilst parents can continue to go to work after sending in the kids in the morning and then merely having to fetch them home in the evening.

Genius Learning Hub Special Promotion Sep 2011

12 weeks lessons from $450*

1. For 6 months to 8 years old
2. Evening Classes available

* Limited Period only. Terms and Conditions Apply.

For more information, call 6255 7790 or visit us at www.geniuslearninghub.com

Hess Education Centre will be having the following Trial Classes

1. Hess Education Centre Free Trials for Play Group, Nursery, Kindergarten and Primary
   English OR Mandarin Enrichment
   
2. Hess Education Centre Free Trials for Primary Creative Writing

Hess Education Centre Free Trials for Play Group, Nursery, Kindergarten and Primary
English OR Mandarin Enrichment

Hess Education Centre Free Trials for Primary Creative Writing

For more information, check out www.hess.com.sg

Pacifiers are tools that help mothers soothe and comfort the baby. They are usually made of plastic materials used to prevent an infant from sucking his thumb. But mothers should not depend on these tools for too long time as they may pose a threat to the baby’s teeth formation and speech development. Pediatricians suggest that parents should move away from pacifiers after children reach 12 months of age as the pacifier may distort their speech patterns.
Here are some tips to help your child move away from the pacifier:

1. Hide it. If your child doesn’t see it, he will probably forget about it. There are times when children would resort to crying so that they will get what they want. Be firm and consistent.

2. Reduce the use of a pacifier. If your child is using it during the day, you can allow him to use it only during the night or during nap time. It may take time for infants to adjust and parents should not hasten this transition period.

3. Find other ways to console your baby, such as toy puppetry or music. Be creative as you try out new ways to use, instead of relying on the pacifiers.

4. Pacifiers are often used to help babies fall asleep. Help him get into slumber without the pacifiers by introducing new bedtime routines such as, taking a warm bath before bed, telling bed-time stories or playing soft music.

5. Talk to your child about not using the pacifier. Tell him that as he grows old, he no longer needs it.

6. Feed the baby at the right time regularly. When children are well-fed, the urge to suck on pacifiers will lessen.

7. Create a reward chart to mark your child’s progress. You can show it to him and make him understand the chart. Praise him for his improvement and provide small rewards every time he makes an effort to not use his pacifiers.

“Did you hear me? Didn’t I just ask you to turn off the television and start cleaning your room? This is the third time… Are you listening?”

Sounds familiar? Many parents encounter the above scenario where they keep repeating the same instructions to their toddlers, yet they find no results of obedience or adherence. However, parents should not be discouraged. New studies have shown that this is natural and toddlers do listen.

According to Yuko Munakata, a psychology professor at University of Colorado, toddlers do not plan for the future and they do not live in the present. Professor Munakata advised parents to avoid repeating the same things as this strategy does not work well with young children. Parents should direct and prepare them for situations which they may face.

Here are some possible ways you may try to adopt when communicating with your toddlers:

• Maintain eye contact to establish connection. In this manner, you will be able to get your toddler’s attention and help him understand what you are saying. Maintain a warm and approachable eye contact as you speak.

• Give prior notice. Say you are leaving in five minutes so he has time to prepare and anticipate. Be realistic and specific in your notice. For example, when you tell your child to keep his toys, specify which toys should be put away first, such as, “Start putting the yellow blocks into their proper places.”

• Address your child. Use the child’s name when you are giving directions. For instance, “Nash, please turn off the television…”

• Keep your instructions brief, simple and straight to the point.

• Ask your child to repeat what you said. This is to ensure that he listened and understood your instructions.

• Let your child realize or experience the consequence when he has fulfilled what was asked of him. This is effective as it helps children to understand that their actions have consequences.

• Be polite. The use of “please” is always encouraging. Speak to your children the way you want them to speak to you.

• Messages that start with “you” are judgmental and threatening. They will only result to defense and defiance. Instead of saying “You must…. Or you’d better do this….” Try saying “I need you to… or I will be please when you…..”

• Use a calm and relaxed tone. Avoid yelling as it instills fear. It is better if your child listens out of understanding rather than fear.

Come join us at My Little Genius Open House!

Hougang Outlet: 27 and 28 Aug 2011
Jurong East Outlet: 28 Aug 2011

Enjoy Special Promotions worth up to $150!

Call us today at 62877637 (Hougang) or 65607050 (Jurong East)
to book your seats for Free Preview sessions!

Limited seats available.

www.MyLittleGenius.com.sg

Special 70% discount off Trial Class Fees for Speech & Drama (English/Chinese), Literacy Through Stories and Ants on the Apple Programmes

Check out the following Great Deals Singapore
Highlights

• 70% Off Trial Class fees for any of the 4 Leap School House programme:
  a. Speech & Drama English - 3 to 6 years old
  b. Speech & Drama Chinese - 3 to 6 years old
  c. Literacy Through Stories - 4 to 6 years old
  d. Ants on the Apple - 3 to 4 years old

• MOE registered enrichment centre

To get this deal, visit Great Parenting Deals

The Fine Print

• Strictly by appointments only
• Valid till 30 September 2011
• Please call 6634 0828 for booking of appointment

Other terms and conditions apply

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All in the Family Counselling is starting a Single Parent Support Group

How do Support Group Work?

Group support offers a safe and confidential place for people with common concerns and issues to meet and process their issues and receive and give feedback. Members are screened so that everyone attending has similar issues so that the focus of the group is very specific. Group therapy is also a more cost effective way to receive therapy than individual counseling and has been repeatedly shown to be effective to help people cope better.

What About Confidentiality?

Individuals may be shy to attend their first support group for fear of disclosing that they need support or help. However, remember that everyone in the group is in the same situation as you. The group is run by a trained Master Level Therapist who has group therapy training. All group members sign a document stating that they will keep discussion in the group meeting confidential. In addition, members only use first names and telephone numbers and email addresses are kept confidential. Everyone attending the group is seek support, validation and help coping with a change in their life. There is no shame to get help and make yourself happier and more effective as a parent and individual.

What happens in support group?

Each time the group meets, members will be offered the opportunity to check in and share anything that was significant to them or anything they might like feedback on or support. No member is required to talk and each member can decide how much or little to say each session. Each meeting their will be a topic that is covered that is relevant to the group to help the group develop better life skills, coping skills or new and more healthy ways to look at their situation.

Benefits of Support Groups:

• Installation of hope about one’s life and circumstances
• Realizing that you are not alone in your feelings and situations
• Being able to share information to others needing help
• Learning new helpful skills
• Being able to express feelings never expressed to people who can empathize with your situation

Possible Topics Covered

• Managing anger/hurt towards ex-spouse
• Discussing frustrations of dealing with ex-spouse
• Processing fears and concerns of being a single parent
• Discussing issues related to family disappointment at the divorce
• Discussing topics of financial concern
• Learning how to manage grief over dissolution of marriage
• Parenting skills for single parents
• Dating

Timing & Frequency of meetings?

The frequency of meetings will be determined by the group. The group may decide to meet once a week, every other week or whatever. The group will set the pace and we can always adjust as necessary to whatever will be most helpful to the group. Possible times for the group to run would be after work at 6pm, or over the lunch hour hour or on a Saturday.

More Questions?

If you have more questions, please feel free to contact us via email tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com or phone call (+65 9030 7239). We need a minimum of 3 members with similar availability to start the group and can go up to 7 members. If you would like to be on the wait list please email us and include only the times/days you are NOT available. A counselor will contact you to further screen you to make sure you are placed in an appropriate group.

Cost:

Each session is $40 payable in cash on the day. Individuals do not need to commit to any length of session, however coming regularly is often more helpful. To find out more information, visit www.allinthefamilycounselling.com/index.php/groups/single-parent-support-group

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