Today’s Motherhood

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1. Do not worry about other thing like confinement lady, Mil , maid during your confinement. Take this chance to bond and do your best as a mum. Do not blame yourself if things do not go the intended way. Most importantly , work as a couple and just TRY YOUR BEST. LOVE is the Greatest!!!

2. Having a supportive husband who helps with the changing of diaper and soothing the crying baby. Also a helpful and experienced mother who helps with household chores, cooking, bathing the baby, changing the diaper. Checking the baby regularly and feed her at first sign of need before she cries for milk. Making sure the baby has enough milk especially at night so that the baby can sleep for longer hours. Expressing breast milk in between feed for night feeding and taking turns to wake up at night to feed the baby.

3. Get someone that can help you during confinement, example confinement lady. Read child caring books as much as you can before delivered. Have a list of your friends and relatives that had confinement experience, so that you can called them if facing any problem. Always be optimistic.

4. My mother-in-law cooked simply sumptous confinement meals and even deliver breakfast right up to my room! Hubby helped bathe baby while I practiced only a few times. However, I was the main caregiver to my baby and I thought that was important and great for both of us as we get to learn about each other and from there, developed a lasting loving relationship.

5. One of the major causes of stress during confinement is the new born baby crying. parents are worried and anxious. pro-long crying can also make extremely difficult for the mother to get the needed rest. Crying also sometimes make the mother feel inadequate and hence self-condemnation and even depression may seep in.

   The key is to know that crying is actually GOOD for the baby. There are only 4 things that a baby can do: Eat, Sleep, Passing Motion and Cry. Crying is the only exercise they can perform and it is good for their lungs. So, let the kid cry a little and don’t jump at the very moment you hear a sound of crying.

6. Having an experience confinement lady (CL) is essential especially if it is your first child.
   My 1st CL has been a great help to me when my daughter was born. She knows what to do with the baby when she cries and cook good food too. Furthermore, she was able to share her experiences with me which help me to be confident in taking care of my girl.
   As CL is able to take away the stress during the confinement month, I was able to relax pretty well for that month and recovered real fast.

7. For me my confinement is done bu aunt and mum in law.. They will help me in cooking and wash the kids dtuff up.. They’ll also teach me what is good for my baby in this age and what to do and what must not do.. At night my hubby will look after the baby in feedin and changing pamper.. This is what i do when having my confinement

8. Close one eye :)

9. Happy to see so many good suggestions. Keep them coming :)

10. I believe in bonding with my baby from day one, so my husband and me as well as all our kids get to care for baby from day 1. Complete breastfeeding eliminates extra washing and sterilizing. Being extra sensitive to baby and acknowledging that they are super smart, 1 manage to potty train my baby from birth so there’s less diaper change. Baby is happier too since we understand one another. Don;t worry, be happy, God has given each and every mother the wisdom, strength and abounding love to meet the needs of your baby.

11. You need plenty of rest during confinement. Husband and family supports are crucial especially if you are breastfeeding. Leave your baby to the caregiver so that you’ve no worries on rejuvenating and breastfeeding. Express your breast milk too so that your caregiver and/or family members can help bottle feed him/her during the nights.

12. Bonding with baby is the most important. Having a supportive husband who can help with the feeding, bathing and changing of diapers helps a lot too. Most important, is stay cheerful on this wonderful journey that will last you a lifetime.

13. For any first time mother, everything is new and there is always a strong fear of doing it wrongly. Getting support and constant assurance from family is most important. Do not be afraid to ask for help or get tips. Read sufficient baby books but not too much or you’ll stress yourself into wanting everything to be perfect. Allocate some time during confinement to have your little personal joys like reading or watching your favourite shows to de-stress. Be happy and watch your baby grow.

14. My confinement was spent bonding with my baby from day one and most importantly is hubby support for you. Discuss with hubby how will you want your first one month to be like, recovery or bonding or both. Then its best to take the time to meet with the confinement lady to understand and relay your needs and wants, expectations as a new mother. She has to understand that, despite all her experience, she has to refer back to the mother of the child so that the baby understands the parents point of view. She is only there to assist for the confinement month after is completely up to you. So all the best to all the mothers to be out there! Most important things is to treasure these early moments, these are the best times!

15. Engage a confinement lady during the confinement month. They are very experience in taking care of you and baby so that you can get a lot of rest. Besides that, I didn’t really breast-feed my baby because he didn’t know how to latch on well. So, I’ve pumped out the milk and fed him. He only latched on 2nd month onward and until today (7th month old), I’m still breast feeding him well.. :) It can be very stressful and tiring if you insist breastfeeding your baby during confinement period.

16. The most important is try to get enough rest and not to feel stress especially when you are a new mom. Don’t hesitate to ask for help from husband or family members when feel needed. Well prepared in terms of mentally and physically during pregnancy also a good way to keep the confinement stress free.

17. 1. Decide earlier if you wish to abide by the confinement rules i.e. not washing your hair for a month or wearing long sleeve clothes all the time. This is to avoid any conflict or mis-understanding with your in-laws, own mother or confinement nannies should they confront you.

    2. Maintain an open communication channel with hubby all the time. Newborns tend to feed every 1 or 2 hours or so. That means hubby should also lend a helping hand during night feeds or just by soothing the baby if he or she tends to wake up during the night.

    3. Sleep when baby is asleep.

    4. Bond with your baby. Take this opportunity to talk to your baby, sing or even take candid shots of her precious milestone.

18. Mummy needs to take care of herself so that she can take care of her baby. Be receptive to others’ advise and help. Everyone around wants the best for you. Baby will know mummy loves him and will learn to take care of mummy by behaving. Daddy to participate in mummy’s confinement and yes care for baby with mummy.